Don’t be pressured into marriage because your friends are getting married’ – Ushbebe
Ushbebe, a stand-up comedian, radio presenter and actor has dropped advice to young people hoping to get married soon.
He is a versatile and talented actor was born in Kaduna into a polygamous family, he said “be sure of what they want before getting into marriage. They shouldn’t marry because their friends are getting married. They should know the person and family background. Guys shouldn’t wait until they have all the money in the world. I got married when I just started my career and I didn’t have much but everything fell into place in the long run and I reaped the blessings afterwards.”
He married for 9 years further expressed his view on divorce as well as how he had been holding up in his marriage.
Ushbebe said, “We have been pushing. So far so good God has been faithful. Every day we get to keep building the home irrespective of whatever plans or goals we set. My wife does a lot taking care of our son and working at the same time. I am of the school of thought that if one wants to do something, one will do it. If one chooses to stay married, one will. We are not in the league of those who choose to quit. We try to accommodate each other. There are many celebrities that have been married for years so I believe staying married is a choice. If one gets tired of their spouse easily then probably they weren’t meant to be together.”
“As commitment is a choice so also is divorce. I’m not an advocate for divorce because I believe it’s beautiful to stay married regardless of the challenges that might come with it. As long as one has chosen to marry, then one should try to stay married. People need to learn to compromise because marriage is beyond one’s principles and policies. Some people divorce because of infidelity, that is a choice but I believe there is still room for forgiveness. In church, we are taught that marriage is for a lifetime and I live by that principle. The only time I accede to divorce is on the grounds of domestic violence. I don’t support staying in an abusive marriage.”
Ushebe hails from Aladja, Urhobo, in Delta State. He is a graduate of Theatre Arts, Delta State University. He began his entertainment career in 2006 after his mandatory National Youth Service. Ushbebe worked as a presenter on the popular television programme, AY shows and was an On-Air Personality (OAP) on Naija FM.